"Van der Pas aims to develop a process theory of parenting which does justice to what parents accomplish, while not neglecting their weaknesses and failures. . . This book is too good to lay aside--a must read for those who work with parents, students and teachers of psychology"

Sietske Dijkstra | Dutch Journal of Mental Health

"The passion which one senses throughout the entire book, the will to develop quality services for parents, without excluding anyone--parent or child--a professional seriousness which draws on thorough knowledge of the literature and on critical reflection: these make the reader feel good"

Peter Adriaenssens | University of Leuven, Belgium

"She has discovered what every parent knows, though often cannot articulate or accept about themselves. . . Her writing can evoke nostalgia, a reappreciation of one’s personal past, making this book valuable on another level"

Patsy Turrini | The New York School for Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis